Most of the anxiety that we feel when our kids misbehave stems from the thoughts we have about their misbehavior and the stories we tell ourselves about the misbehavior. 

If we change the thoughts we have about misbehavior then we can shift the stories that we tell ourselves and we can find or maintain calm even in the face of a temper tantrum, emotional meltdown, squabbling siblings, undone chores, and confrontations about how unfair we are.